February 26, 2008

Reverend Professor Gomes Delights and Inspires Students

Yesterday we were treated to an assembly presentation and hour-long follow-up discussion with Reverend Professor Peter J. Gomes, Chaplain at Harvard's Memorial Church and Plummer Professor of Christian Morals at Harvard University. Below is the review of senior Annie Strauman, who served as Reverend Gomes's student ambassador for the visit.

Rev. Peter J. Gomes addressed the student body this past Monday. Speaking extemporaneously, he spoke about the superficial nature of assembly speakers, the wimpy reactions of North Carolinians to snow when Boston has “real weather”, and explained his unusual perspective on advising undergraduates at Harvard. But more importantly, Rev. Gomes discussed his view on “independent” schools. He discussed how they allow the leisure to think great thoughts. He stressed that such school should teach students to become careful followers, rather than mediocre leaders. He ended with three parting wishes for the student body (“like a fairy god-mother”, he said). He hoped that each student would find his vocation – whatever each other us felt called to do, our great joy that addressed the world's great need. He hoped that we would discover abundant happiness. And he hoped that we would always possess a sense of humor, because a sense of humor is a way to transcend all the evils of the world.

The candid nature of Rev. Gomes speech was impressive. It distinguished him from anyone I have ever heard. He earned my respect, and from the reactions of my classmates, the respect of my fellow students when he began by acknowledging the pink elephant – the superficial relationship of assembly speaker and audience.





Reverend Gomes chats with Annie after his conversations in Kenan Auditorium.



Personally, I could not agree more with his argument that schools should teach students how to be good followers. If a college admits ten thousand great leaders, nothing will get done. In a world of followers, people will rise into leadership – they always do – and the critically thinking followers will decide who is best to follow. Just as democracy discovered that it is the people who give governments power, so Rev. Gomes argued that this country needs to learn that good followers make great leaders.

His parting wishes also resonated with me. His wish for each of us to find our calling that serves the worlds great need was a message that we have heard a thousand times in a thousand different ways. But Rev. Gomes made us listen to it, instead of just hearing it. His calling to be a preacher has served the world’s great need for a loud voice to tell it as it is. This was clear by the end of his speech, which demonstrated his speaking ability. Through his talents, he was able to prove his point that fulfilling your vocation is more than just doing your job.

I believe his most important lesson came with his final wish – for each of us to have a sense of humor. I am always proud of the effort that Durham Academy makes to promote all facets of each student who attends. Not every attempt is as successful as we would like, but I am always proud to see that my school keeps trying – in sincerity – to mold critical thinkers and people who will act upon their morals. But I think that this school and many within it – including myself – have forgotten to have a sense of humor. Unless we can laugh at our own irony, foolishness, and mistakes, we can not move forward or learn. Or enjoy what success we do achieve. His final hope for us was his most important lesson to DA.

Rev. Gomes will be preaching at Duke Chapel on March 16th, 2008. To watch him in recent interview (about 20 minutes) with Charlie Rose, click here.

February 25, 2008

State Chess Champs!


Congratulations to DA's Chess team, which last weekend won its first K-12 North Carolina State Championship (in a huge upset over heavily-favored East Chapel Hill High School). The victorious team includes Elliot Cartee, Tre Hunt, Robert Jackson, Connor Labean, Salil Saxena, Carl Ward, and Fred Ward.

February 22, 2008

D-bate, DA, and DNS

Assistant debate coach (and Duke student) Ally Bell took four students to Harvard last weekend for one of the year's most competitive national debate tournaments. Coach Jeff Welty writes, "Sophomores Josh Zoffer and Robert Kindman were undefeated in preliminary competition, were 6th speakers, were the second seeds overall, and advanced all the way to the semifinal round before losing on a split decision. A fantastic accomplishment, made even sweeter by the fact that they are now fully qualified for the year-end Tournament of Champions. Editorial comment: Harvard is a HUGE tournament and their performance is astonishing for sophomores."

Josh, Robert, and their teammates awash in awards at the recent Cary Academy tournament.
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The following article, written by our own Anthony Clay, appeared in the February issue of ENews from Durham Nativity School. It outlines the remarkable collaborations that have grown up between DA and DNS in just this school year. I've attached the entire issue of the newsletter, including a conversation with DNS founder and DA parent of alumni Joe Moylan and several other pespectives on a very special school.


DA and DNS . . . Partner Up!

During each of the past two summers, faculty and staff from every division of Durham Academy have come together for a remarkable personal and collective journey through the highways and byways of the American South. Across some two thousand miles - Atlanta, Birmingham, Montgomery, Selma, Tuskegee, and Memphis - we explored questions of race and religion, identity, history and memory, service, and social justice. We learned, we laughed, we cried. We also came back resolved to remain connected with one another and to carry our tour experiences into our own community.

To that end, we decided to partner with an organization in Durham where we might be of service. When Barbara Potter, a veteran of the inaugural civil rights tour and devoted volunteer at Durham Nativity School, shared with us her powerful interactions with the young men at DNS, we'd found a place to contribute our time and energy. Last November, Ingrid Medlock and her staff welcomed us warmly to breakfast for our first visit to the school. In December, many of us sat in the audience for the DNS afternoon performance in DA's Kenan Auditorium - expertly emceed by DNS graduate and DA student Marco R. Many of us recently spent two Friday afternoons in the DNS kitchen with eight DNS students cooking. During our first cooking collaboration, we made a Super Bowl themed meal, headlined by healthy turkey chili. On our second visit, it was Italian: spaghetti, meatballs, sauce, salad, and pudding. One student took such a shine to balsamic vinegar, he got to take the bottle home (along with meal leftovers!) We'll be back for a 3rd time to provide lunch (by popular demand, spaghetti again) for the entire school.

The students and staff at DNS have made quite an impression on us, just as Barbara Potter predicted last fall. Says Willetha Colvin, who works in DA's development office, "There is a palpable sense of dedication from the staff at DNS. It's hard not to catch wind of the energy." In the words of Patsy Harlow, a DA Lower School teacher, "I particularly enjoy how enthusiastic, appreciative, eager to learn, and well mannered the boys are!" Adds Lower School teacher Elizabeth Culpepper, "I loved visiting the school and cooking with the boys, and was struck by their self-confidence and their comfort level when talking to adults. They truly love school, and DNS in particular, and seem dedicated to pursuing their education to its highest and farthest limits."

Clearly, great things are happening at DNS, and it's our honor and joy to collaborate in even modest ways with the amazing people in this special school!





Senior Elsa Ohman, a frequent Spanish tutor at DNS.

February 17, 2008

Great Debate, Peter Gomes, Science Olympians, and Brad's "Commitment to Community"

DA Debate update from its recent tournament at Cary Academy: In JV public forum, Tre Hunt and Ted Arapoglou were undefeated and took 4th place -- they haven't lost a round since November! David Fowler and Tristan Swedish went 3-1 in the same division, and earned honorable mention. Meanwhile, in varsity public forum, Josh Zoffer and Robert Kindman took 3rd place, losing only once in a close decision. In varsity Lincoln-Douglas debate, Josh Erb was named "top speaker" and took 3rd place overall. Ben Hattem took 2nd place in dramatic interpretation, showing that DA can excel in the interpretive events as well.

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Next Monday (February 25) we'll enjoy an extended visit from Reverend Professor Peter Gomes. Reverend Professor Gomes is the Chaplain at Harvard's Memorial Church, widely regarded as one of America's greatest preachers. His visit (assembly + C and E period discussions in the Commons + lunchtime Q&A - all of them open to all students and teachers) fits perfectly into our efforts with character education. To read the News & Notes article about Reverend Gomes's visit, click here. To see him in a recent interview with Charlie Rose, click here.

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Science Olympians go for gold. DA's S.O. varsity team recently finished 4th of 18 teams at regionals and will advance to the State competition (April 4th and 5th).

JV
o Luca Harrell (1st place Sounds of Music)--ask him about his guitar!
o Mike Ronco (1st place Sounds of Music)
o Jon Powers
o Steve Benson
o Kala Viswanathan
o JW Hwang
o Peter Davoust
o Eddie Liu (1st place Remote Sensing)
o Andrew Annex (1st place Remote Sensing, 2nd place Rocks and Minerals)
o Collin Burks
o Soph Tsang (2nd place: Food Science, Oceanography and Rocks and MInerals)
o Charlotte Dunn (2nd place Oceanography)

Varsity
o Noah Steege (1st place Electric Car)
o Ben Cox (1st place Electric Car, 6th Experimental Design)
o Nick Cariello
o Carmen Augustine
o Wei Leong (3rd place Forensics)
o Gargi Bansal (3rd place Forensics)
o Sean Sketch (2nd place Chem Lab, 5th Food Science, 6th Experimental Design)
o Caroline Bodager (1st in Remote Sensing)
o Jim Mallernee (7th place Astronomy, 3rd Fermi Questions, 3rd Physics Lab)
o Caitlin Burk (2nd place Chem Lab, 3rd Fermi Questions)
o Johnathan Martin (2nd place Ornithopter, 3rd Rocks and Minerals)
o Alexis Noel (4th in Junkyard Challenge)
o Victoria Vaughn (6th place Exp. Design, 4th in Junkyard Challenge)
o Raj Sundar (6th place Health Science)
o Salil Saxena (5th place Food Science, 6th place Health Science)
o Tyler Carroll (5th place Bottle Rocket, 7th Astronomy, 3rd Physics Lab)
o Lise Williams (1st place Remote Sensing, 3rd Rocks and Minerals)
o John Lindsey (5th place Bottle Rocket)

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Bradley Joseph Waffa, DA class of '04, is the January 2008 winner of the Pearigen Award for Commitment to Community at Sewanee, The University of the South. A biology major, Brad hopes to become a veterinarian who specializes in parasitological and zoonotic disease; but his immediate post-graduate plans include completing a research project on box turtles that he began last semester on the Mountain. Brad has co-authored and co-presented with Sewanee faculty on a variety of biological studies, including an article in a 2005 edition of Southeastern Biology. Outside of the classroom, Brad has contributed to the community in the following ways: AP & Proctor in Cannon Hall, 3 year Residential Computing Consultant (RCC), Order of the Gownsmen, Sewanee Men Against Rape, Student Alumni Leadership Council (SALC), Sewanee Health Professions Society, College Libertarians of the University of the South, Lambda Chi Alpha fraternity, Sewanee Cycling Team, Sewanee Equestrian Team, and SOP trip-leader. Brad is also a licensed Emergency Medical Technician. Eric Hartman, dean of students, said the following about Brad’s leadership, “I discovered that Brad was more than an accomplished student leader when immediately following a tedious racial incident that culminated in a mandatory residence hall meeting, he began to challenge the group’s silence. It became clear that his peers seek his insight and advice in mediating complicated situations. Moreover, his leadership has transformed the facility and the experience from an environment entrenched with abusive tendencies to one of good humor and mature citizenship.” Congratulations Brad!

Hockey stars, Amigos, The Ann Atwater Project, and a Durham Crusader

Smart stickers! Seniors Caitlin Crawford, Catherine Donatucci, Rachel Hodges, Julie McCracken, and Leslie Ogden, The ZAG/NFHCA High School National Academic Squad program recognizes outstanding high school senior field hockey team members who achieved a cumulative GPA of 3.5 through the first quarter of the 2007-08 school year.

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FAD (Literacy Tutors) and Student U. aren't the only tutoring programs in the Upper School. Natalie Gallo, Worth Newman, Liliana and Margarita have revived our Latino outreach in the Amigos de Forest View y Hope Valley Club. The group meets for a few hours on Saturdays to assist Spanish-speaking students with reading, math, and computer skills. To see the impressive flyer Worth designed to expand the number of students served, click here.

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A new community partnership with an old friend - The Duke/DA Ann Atwater Project is officially off the ground. Duke students in the program of Education (under the direction of Student U. Board Member Dr. Jan Riggsbee) and 7 DA students will be coordinating fundraising, workdays and other events in cooperation with the City of Durham to help re-open The Ann Atwater Community Center. DA Team Leader Calvin Brett and Bela Kussin met recently with Duke students to brainstorm, set goals and schedule some activities. A few examples:

o Feb 9: Both groups will have lunch at Ann's house and do a site visit.
o Feb 18: fundraiser at DA: Breakfast and goodies during the day. Duke students will assist on our campus.
o February and March - Duke Latino and African American Groups,Fraternities and Sororities will assist with fundraising projects
o April 11: DA Used Book Fair -Special Hour for purchasing of books for the center's library by the Team (Duke has already raised $400). The DA Parents Association will donate a portion of books that are left over after the sale to the center.

The DA Team Members (Calvin, Lenae Frazier, Max Jones, Gavin Walker and Kara Stith) aim to make this an "an all school initiative" for students and faculty.

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Cavs Club leader Leslie Ogden sent the following note and link to the inspiring story of a true Durham crusader (written by another): "I came across this article in the Herald Sun about Alphonso, one of the men who joined us in the class gift presentation for Housing for New Hope. Thought you might enjoy it."

February 9, 2008

The best of times, the worst of times

I typically write with pride in this space, spreading good news about the leaders, servants, and learners who make our community such a strong one. Tonight I have to do the opposite, for I am feeling disappointed and ashamed of my own failure to enforce more hospitable behavior by our basketball fans this evening. When several of our students went across the bleachers to stand behind the few but raucous students from North Raleigh Christian Academy, I immediately asked them to move back. They quickly consented. When our entire student section migrated to the NRCA side about 20 minutes later, I should have sent them all back. Instead I walked over with Captain Lee, monitored our students. and felt ashamed that we had so inhospitably displaced the parents of our opponents.

I regret my lack of courage, good sense, or both - first because we can do better as hosts, and second because I ought to do better as someone who trumpets so often the virtues of respect and kindness. After the game, I fielded a series of complaints from NRCA parents and grandparents. Because they were right, I could only apologize for myself and on behalf of our school.

Luckily, I and the NRCA parents were able to separate the bad behavior in the stands from an extraordinary game on the court. The Cavs played some of their best basketball of the year. Surging to an early lead, fending off a late run by NRCA, hitting three-pointers and high-pressure free throws with calm focus, and even dunking to seal the victory - this was a tremendous Senior Night with some heroic performances. The girls varsity was equally impressive, letting their powerful senior class lead them to victory.

As our Spirit Week unfolded behind Student Council's able leadership, it was clear how much we all appreciate the fun of healthy competition. As students swarmed the court after the boys' overtime win, it was impossible not to feel pride and joy for DA. However, even after a night with two victories, two touching tributes to senior parents, a great dance team performance, and a crowd full of CavDome crazies, I couldn't help but wish that our fans (and I as an administrator) had performed as excellently as our players.

I will email the Athletic Director and Upper School Director at NRCA this evening, apologizing for our collective lack of hospitality. Based on the understanding comments of their parents after the game, I trust they'll accept that apology and that we'll have many more opportunities to show our best sportsmanship on and off the court.

February 1, 2008

Spirit Week, FAD, and Student U.

Mollie Pathman, seconds before her game-winning goal in the Spirit Week Quad Soccer tournament.

----Student Council aims to conquer the February blues with laughter and competition Feb 4-9 during Upper School Spirit Week

Tuesday - dress-like-a-kindergartener
o egg toss (tutorial) and obstacle course (lunch)

Wednesday
- class color day
o Bond tournament (tutorial) and Tug O'War (lunch)

Thursday - twin day
o ping pong (tutorial)and dodge ball (lunch)

Friday: DA Spirit day (wear green and white)
o quad soccer (tutorial) and 3 on 3 basketball (lunch)

Basketball in the the CAV DOME from 3:45 until 9:00, when the Cavs Club will celebrate its annual S'mores Night.

Saturday: Science Olympiad regionals + Valentine's Day Dance

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More than a FAD - a happy update from Mrs. McCarthy about the new senior elective Teaching Literary Skills and Outreach Tutoring:

If you happened to walk through the doors at Forestview Elementary School at 12:50, you might notice a gaggle of third graders giggling, turning cartwheels and literally jumping up and down. A dozen Latino children eagerly await the arrival of their Durham Academy Augustine tutors, 12 seniors enrolled in the Augustine Literacy elective, offered for the first time by the Upper School in 2007-2008. The seniors spent the first six weeks of school learning about why some children struggle with reading, writing and spelling, then how to assess and remediate those problems using the research-based Orton-Gillingham approach and Wilson Reading System materials. They were each then assigned to an Augustine child at Forestview (defined as being below grade level in reading and qualifying for free or reduced lunch). One-on-one tutoring, using multisensory, systematic, phonics-based lesson plans, takes place in the Forestview media center during a combined E / lunch period on days 2,3,6, and 7. The other days are spent in the classroom at DA -- planning lessons, discussing the needs of specific children, learning more about the curriculum.

This FAD (Forestview / Augustine / Durham Academy pilot project) has been an unqualified success. As one senior wrote in a mid-year evaluation, “The entire experience has been wonderful; one I wrote about for numerous college essays and that has inspired me to want to continue teaching and tutoring. The first few weeks when we learned how to teach someone to read was awesome and gave me tools I will use for life. The experience of working with my student has been irreplaceable and life-changing.”

The instructors for the course, Augustine Project Executive Director, Debbie McCarthy and her assistant, Tracey Powell, are very impressed with the DA tutors. In their words, “These twelve seniors are incredibly capable, committed, and compassionate young people. Their students are making solid progress in literacy skills while building relationships that are a joy to behold.”

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Some similarly uplifting updates from Student U.:

o Our 49 sixth-graders from last summer's program have, since early September, been tutored weekly and been gathering monthly with 49 high-school and college-age tutors for whole-group mentoring events. After an on-campusing tutoring session tomorrow, for example, the group will march with DA in the Durham MLK Parade.

o Over 110 fifth graders have applied for the 50 available positions in Student U. Summer 2008. The lucky 50 will be joined by 32 teachers (including a dozen returners): approximately 10 each from NCCU, Duke, UNC-CH, and 2 from DA.

o With strategic and logistical support from the DA development office, Dan Kimberg has raised nearly all of the $186,000 operating budget for the 08-09 school year. This includes new commitments from Duke, UNC-CH, and DA, and gifts from foundations and individual donors all over Durham.

At last week's 2nd annual Benefit Breakfast for Student U., I introduced our new Advisory Board members and talked a bit about why Student U. matters to the "new DA." Excerpts follow:

• Priscilla Ching is an architect who serves on the Board of Trustees here at Durham Academy. Her enthusiasm for Student U. flows directly from her motherly pride and satisfaction, as Priscilla's son Terry taught English in the first cohort of Student U. teachers last summer, and her younger son Nathan is working each week now as a Student U tutor with 6th grader Devin Autry.

• Anthony Clay is the Co-Director of College Counseling and a teacher of Economics and AP Government and Politics at Durham Academy. Anthony has been deeply engaged in Durham since he arrived ten years ago. He is the past Board President of Junior Leadership Durham and a Board Member of the Southern Association for College Admission Counseling. After stints at Raleigh Charter High School and Carolina Friends School, Anthony has become an effective catalyst for community involvement at Durham Academy.

• Omega Curtis Parker is a Durham native and recent retiree from the Durham Public Schools, where she served for 39 years as media center coordinator at Little River Elementary School. She now serves as one of the seven elected members of the Durham Board of Education. She is also a member of St. Mark A.M.E. Zion Church and a longtime leader in the Durham Alumnae Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority. Omega is a graduate of Hillside High School with bachelors and masters degrees from North Carolina Central University.

Priscilla, Anthony, and Omega join our veteran board members in representing the 5 pillars of Student U.: Durham Public Schools, Durham Academy, North Carolina Central University, UNC-Chapel Hill, and Duke University.

We all know that Duke and Carolina are occasionally antagonistic. We know that private schools like Durham Academy and public systems like DPS are supposed to be competitive and oppositional. We have heard -- particularly from the national press in recent years - that Duke and North Carolina Central University serve opposite spheres in Durham.

But Student U. is helping to prove that none of this is true. Our shared goals, to lift up young people, to improve their lives and the collective life of this region, transcend the differences in our institutions.

My Board colleagues can speak for the universities, and at the end of the program you'll hear from the Chair of the Board of Durham Public Schools, but I can say unequivocally that Student U. is not simply an extra program at Durham Academy. At the core of our mission as a school, at the center of our strategic planning, and in the hearts of our faculty and students is a profound commitment to connect more fully with our city, to share the resources that we have, to steer our most talented graduates toward education and other careers for the public good.

Student U. is already bridging the gaps that have existed in Durham for decades. Who would have thought that the first check written to Durham Academy for Student U. would come from a Board Member of the Public Schools. (Thank you, Steve Schewel!). Who would have thought that Duke University would be paying its students from all around the country to spend their summers working 80-hour weeks in Durham (Thank you, Duke Engage). Who would have thought that a grad student from North Carolina Central University would be among those leading 100 Durham Academy 11th graders on a Civil Rights Bus Tour of Atlanta, Selma, Birmingham, Montgomery, and Memphis? (Thank you, Jamie Bennett). Who would have thought that Tar Heels and Eagles and Devils and Cavaliers would all come together so that 50, then 100, then 150, then who knows how many middle schoolers will change college from a distant and perhaps doubtful dream into an unavoidable and exciting reality?

Thanks to all of you, for all you've done already to support Student U. and its public-private collaboration. And thanks for all you will do to take this good idea turned great program into something truly transformative for our graduates, our students, our institutions, and our city.

Now, some might say that Student U. is just a drop in the bucket. Why should a school system with 33,000 students care about a little bitty program that serves just 100 or 150 of them? I think the answer will, in the course of the morning, become clear. Student U. is a program that changes individual lives radically, altering the trajectories of middle schoolers and revolutionizing the vision of college students. But it's also sending ripples already into the broader system - linking Durham Academy and the universities more fully with the rest of Durham, opening doors to public school teaching for our most talented college graduates, and best of all, sending super-charged Student U. alums into their Middle Schools and into the work force with high expectations for what a school can be and how an individual can change the world.

January 27, 2008

MLK food drive, Nicaragua spring break, and Golden Kate Taylor


Durham Academy wrapped up a week-long celebration of the life of Martin Luther King Jr. with a tremendously successful food drive for the Food Bank of Central and Eastern North Carolina. DA’s Freedom Bus was loaded Tuesday with food from each campus: a total of 4,104 pounds of food! That represents 3,456 meals, based on a formula provided by the Food Bank. Congratulations to the DA community for this very generous response to the perishable food drive. Special thanks to DA parent Jennifer Crawford, Diversity Coordinator Torsie Judkins and maintenance staffers Pete Blackwell, Big Mac McDonald and Charlie Piekaar for helping unload the 4,104 lbs of food at the Food Bank.

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Jordan Adair has been working hard to organize the 2008 edition of our spring break travel/service/study trip to Nicaragua. The trip is organized in conjunction with the Durham-San Ramon Sister Communities program, founded by Lonna and Bill Harkrader, DA parents of alumni. This year, LS Spanish teacher Mercedes Almodovar will join Development Office Database Administrator Willetha Colvin in leading the trip. This year's student roster: Worth Newman, Daniel Browning, Kristie Chan, Jonathan Crawford, Erik Heaney, Rachel Dunn, Derek Rhodes, and Luca Tomasi.

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Junior Kate Taylor
has been awarded Girl Scouting's highest honor, the Girl Scout Gold Award, which "challenges high school-aged Girld Scouts to excel in leadership, community service, career planning and personal development. Kate's capstone service project, completed at DA, created and sent over 400 neck coolers to U.S. troops in Afganistan. Please congratulate this unsung hero in our midst.

January 11, 2008

MLK commemoration, Gatorade's Player of the Year, Debate superstars, and the fabulous Hidalgo sisters


This Wednesday we'll kick off our annual Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Commemoration. Highlights include the debut of the DA Gospel Choir, the 2nd annual Freedom School, a schoolwide food drive, a demonstration by the Persuasive People class, a seminar on Historically Black Colleges and Universities, a Durham Civil Rights tour, and an assembly appearance of one of the most distinguished scholars ever to speak at DA. On Friday, Dr. John Hope Franklin will deliver the Wanda Marshall Moore keynote address. For more information about Dr. Franklin, explore the website for the John Hope Franklin Center for Interdisciplinary and International Studies at Duke or this New York Times Book Review. For a full schedule of the MLK 2008 events, click here.

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Junior Adrianne Soo has been named the Gatorade North Carolina Player of the Year for Girls Cross Country. Click here for the full article (including quotes from proud coach Dennis Cullen) and here for more about the award program.

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DA Debate results
from the (Charlotte) Myers Park tournament: Both public forum teams -- Grace Wallack/Dede Pless and Josh Zoffer/Robert Kindman -- made it to the quarterfinals, earning Tournament of Champions bids. Meanwhile, Nathaniel Donahue earned 3rd place out of more than 50 extempers, Max Ramage took 5th out of more than 50 impromptu speakers, and Michael Roubey made both the final round of extemp, finishing 6th, and the seminfinal round of impromptu. Job well done! At the national public forum challenge, an invitation-only event for 16 of the top public forum teams in the country: Grace Wallack and Dede Pless proved they belong among the nation's elite, earning a 3-1 preliminary record against a national field, and losing a split decision in the octafinal round.

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To see beautiful pictures of the recent wedding of Kristen Hidalgo ('99), go to the similarly beautiful website of former DA LS teacher Mary McLean. Click to the "gallery" on the left and then on "kristen and mark." To see a video of Kristen's sister (and LS teacher Susan's daughter) dancing for a hip hop audition in New York, click here. Catherine Hidalgo ('05) is a junior at Villanova who is working with DA junior Kara Stith to help the DA dance team with choreography.

December 21, 2007

Eastway connections and alums in iTunes, San Francisco galleries, and Sevilla.


On Sunday, December 16, a group of sophomores put aside their studying to prepare holiday dinners for ten families from Eastway Elementary School. The Wittman, Peterson, Coleman and Spatola advisories have been visiting Eastway for their Community Service, and have been extremely impressed with the students and faculty at the school. The project was not restricted to these four advisories and many other students from the sophomore class donated their time and their cooking ability to make this project a success. The administration and families at Eastway were very appreciative and it was truly heart-warming to see our students commit their time and their energy to come in on a Sunday for this very worthwhile project.

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Monika Lind (DA '03), "recent USC graduate and Hollywood hopeful," wrote this week to share news of a project called "Band Together: To Fight Measles:" "My friend Mat works for the American Red Cross and compiled a benefit CD to sell on iTunes. He invited me to be a part of it, and I was thrilled. My song is called "Better Angels" – I wrote it and sing it, my brother Jason plays the guitar, and my favorite film composer Dave Stanton arranged it. So please please please check it out on iTunes! Just search "Monika Lind" or "Better Angels" or "Band Together: To Fight Measles." It's for a great cause (the American Red Cross Measles Initiative), and I would really appreciate your support! Just 99 cents!

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John Arnold, DA alumnus and loving son of our own Jennifer Potts, had a show opening is week at San Francisco's Babylon Falling, a "concept-driven independent bookstore with a focus on the spirit of Revolution." To see a video interview of John and his work, click to http://www.babylonfalling.com
and scroll back to the blog entry labeled "Studio Visit with John Feliz Arnold III.

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Davidson College junior and faithful Community Matters reader Anne Stevens (DA '05) returned recently from a semester abroad in Sevilla, Spain. To read her reflections in the Davidsonian Online about learning language and culture across barriers of all kinds, click here.

December 14, 2007

On Sunday (12/16) Durham Nativity School presents its Mid-Year Performance at 3pm in Kenan Auditorium. Writes DA parent of alumni and DNS Board Chair Joe Moylan, "The young men have been working extremely hard to prepare. Please invite your families and friends. Our support to the boys and their families remains a key to their success."

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A nice reminder that our students have all kinds of rich experiences outside of school. Here's senior Yates Sikes with a newborn llama at his home. Here's the report from his mother Laura and father (recent assembly presenter) Jim: "We have had a new arrival. Billie Holiday gave birth to a bouncing 27 lb. baby boy cria on Thursday afternoon at 205 p.m. He stood up at 45 minutes and finally nursed in a little over 3 hours. He is quite rambunctious. He now weighs almost 30 pounds. Mama's milk must be pretty good!"

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With colleges around the country going on break, we'll likely see a lot of recent DA grads on campus next week. Among them might be Cam Chambers '07, now honing his basketball skills during a PG year at New Jersey's Blair Academy (where Costen Irons did a PG year and Mike Ronco began his teaching career). Click here for more about Blair's powerful hoops program, which has produced three current NBA players including Duke's Luol Deng.

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The schedule for the 2008 Upper School Martin Luther King Jr. commemoration has just been published. Among the highlights: the debut of the DA Gospel Choir, a keynote address from Duke's most eminent professor, stories from DA faculty graduates of historically black colleges, an exhibition of Durham Civil Rights artifacts, a citywide parade, Freedom School seminars, and two student service projects. Click here for the details and prepare for another exciting and educational week.

December 7, 2007

Salsa in the gym, Student U. in the gallery, Debate in Greensboro


The DA Salsa Club (sponsored by CSI) meets on Fridays during lunch. Each week thirty students join Bela Kussin in the Upper School Gym (45 students have signed up) sharing lunch, making new friends and learning Puerto Rican Style Salsa (ChaCha, Merengue and Danzon, too). A fun way to end the week. Gavin Walker serves as the Salsa Team Leader.

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Dan Kimberg wrote the following message to Ginger Young, who hosted the Student U. cohort at her Chapel Hill Gallery:


"Thank you for providing our students with an incredible experience this past weekend. They were so engaged in the art work and fascinated by all of the different ways to create a masterpiece. It was great walking around hearing students ask you questions as well as take the initiative to pick up various books around your house and start reading about art.

The students loved Clyde, especially Jared, a self proclaimed artist who seemed to be in awe of Clyde. I made sure Clyde and Jared had a couple of minutes to talk and Clyde provide Jared with some valuable life advice. Jared ran up to his mom when she came to pick him up and told her about the exciting encounter.

Thank you for welcoming us into your home and sharing your passion with our students and teachers."

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DA Debate Update: "Assistant Coach Todd Cobb took the team to NW Guilford HS last Saturday, and they had a great time. A lot of the competitors were new to the debate team -- we have more beginners on the team now than we have ever had. The new crop of public forum novices served notice on the competition, and DA took 2nd place in the small school sweepstakes competition! Worth Newman and Max Young-Jones took 1st in novice PF and were the only undefeated team. Leslie Ogden and Brooke Brown were close behind in 2nd, and David Fowler and Tristan Swedish completed the trophy haul by placing 5th. In other events, Josh Erb took 5th in varsity Linclon-Douglas, and Nathaniel Donahue took 6th in impromptu. Both Ale Tomasi and Ariel Katz were in the top six in original oratory, but the tournament limited awards to the top three. We have a tournament this weekend, again mostly for the newbies, and then we're done until January, a very important month for the varsity."

November 30, 2007

Concert Dazzles, Ryan Wins, Veteran recap, and Toys for Tots



Last night's Band and Chorus concert was fantastic. Those who missed it can look forward to the replay at our assembly on December 10.

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Everybody's All-American -- After winning the 2006 contest in Durham, Sophomore Ryan Tozzi finished 2nd in this year's Voice of Democracy Essay Contest, sponsored by Durham's Veterans of Foreign Wars. When he's not writing, Ryan (kneeling, third from left) and his teammates from the Carolina Chargers have been winning baseball tournaments all over the south. After winning consecutive tournaments in Raleigh, Winston-Salem, and Fayetteville, the team is currently ranked #1 in the country among U-16 teams. Congratulations, Ryan!

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Speaking of veterans, check out the story about our recent Veteran's Day assembly, presented by Mr. Adair and his Literary and Artistic Responses to the Vietnam War course.

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From Patrick Toal and Jon Vagi (two-time AFS host parents who collaborated with our students on a service project this fall).

"Leslie Ogden and the rest of the Upper School Cavaliers did a great job helping us to collect for Toys for Tots this year. We are just beginning to collect from the various sites, but already have 9 overflowing collection boxes, donations of $750 and a few gift cards to add to the mix. Thanks to DA US students for your generous donations, and thanks again to the CAVS CLUB for their supreme efforts!"

November 23, 2007

DA Debate Update and a Thanksgiving Present from Mr. Markus

US Debate update, from coach Jeff Welty: "A small contingent came home awash in trophies from Asheville High School: Josh Zoffer and Robert Kindman went undefeated and took 2nd in varsity public forum, edging out teammates Grace Wallack and Dede Pless, who took 4th." For more info, schedules, and results from DA Speech and Debate, click here.

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The Most Inspiring Speech I have Ever Heard (blog post from Mr. Markus Goes to Harvard)

I do not have much time to write today, but the Video of Mohammed Yunus's [2007 Nobel Peace Prize Winner's] talk has just been made available and I wanted to make it available to you all. You have heard me talk a great deal about this man, but when you hear him in person, you understand the power of his vision. It is a simple but amazing vision that a change in our thinking about poverty and about people can lead to a better way to improve everyone's lives. Not by handouts but by investments in a new form of business which he calls "social business."

If the students who go to Harvard Business School or even the Kennedy School who are focusing on "doing well instead of doing good" can shift to a new focus to "doing well by doing good" we might have a better world. If you get a free hour, this is worth the time. One feels buoyed just by knowing a person like this exists.

 Here is the link.


Enjoy,


Mr. Markus

November 16, 2007

New Hope, Hillary's videos, and Kelsey in Florida


Several Durhamites wrote to contratulate our seniors for their generous gift to Housing for New Hope. To see the article that tipped them off, click here.

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Hillary Rosen (AFS'ing in Germany) recently sent a few short videos she uploaded to motionbox (like youtube). To see Hillary traveling in Austria and rapping in her gymnasium, click here.

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Senior Kelsey Kearney (already signed to play soccer at UNC-Greensboro next year) is keeping the goal for her Triangle Futbol Club team this weekend at The Super Y-League North American finals. Regarded as the top youth soccer tournament on the continent, the event pits 130 of the best club teams in the nation against each other in Tampa, Florida. On Friday, Kelsey's team beat Florida powerhouse Shultz Academy 4-0. To follow her progress through the weekend, click here and look for TFC's under-17 team.

Cash for Community-builders, Debaters rock East, and Briani and Nick tackle college

$EAC and DMHR grant update Student Entrepreneurs Activating Community (SEAC) and David Markus Human Relations (DMHR) grants, funded by the DA Parents Association and an anonymous donor, give Upper School students the opportunity to design, propose, fund, and carry out projects that build community on campus or build bridges to communities outside the school. You and your advisees/students can find out more by clicking here.

Eight individuals/groups made proposals in the first fall cycle, and six were funded. Please congratulate the following, and feel free to ask any member of the Student Life Committee for more information about the programs. Thanks in particular to Dennis, who leads the $EAC/DMHR process.

1. $850 for the SOCK Camp (Week-long summer camp for low income Durham kids.)
2. $70 for the Cavs Club (community service coordinators of drives, fundraisers, and projects).
3. $90 for the CAVS club (for DA students to collaborate with Hoop Dreams and take a group of 20 - 30 sick youngsters to a Duke women’s basketball game.
4. $100 for Science Olympiad DA Upper Schoolers teach/entertain DA Lower Schoolers
5. $400 (or less if we can find cheaper shipping) for Kate Taylor to send neck coolers made by DA students to U.S. Troops in Afghanistan
6. $250 for Amigos de Hope Valley and Lakewood, the revived version of the Spanish club that has resumed one-on-one tutoring of Latino children at the Upper School campus on Saturdays.

The committee has up to $2,250 for its spring granting cycle. If you have students or advisees with a good idea, please help them think about these micro-grants designed to build leadership and community.

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DA Debate Update: "We attended the ECHHS tournament this weekend. Results per our website: Nathaniel Donahue took first place in impromptu speaking. Grace Wallack and Dede Pless were second in varsity public forum, while Josh Zoffer and Robert Kindman took fourth in Robert's public forum debut. Josh Erb was fifth in varsity Lincoln-Douglas debate, and Tanner Caplan was 3-1 in novice L-D."

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From Gloria Woods-Weeks
, Assistant Principal at East Chapel Hill High School and mother of Briani (DA '07): "Briani is doing great! She loves the campus at Temple University and her suite mates. She is still adjusting to the weather. I can't wait to see her. She's coming home for Thanksgiving. She loves cheering, most of her time is spent in class, at practice, and games. She feels really prepared for college and has stated that on many different occasions. We miss her over here. I miss her terribly. Thanks so much for asking about her."

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Nick Thomas ('06) recently began his second season on UNC's JV basketball team. To see Nick in action, go to the Smith Center before a varsity game. To see his profile on the web, click here.

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Food for thought (especially for those contemplating sub-par Q1 report cards)


In the game of life, it's a good idea to have a few early losses, which relieves you of the pressure of trying to maintain an undefeated season.
- Bill Vaughan

If you make every game a life and death proposition, you're going to have problems. For one thing, you'll be dead a lot.
- Dean Smith

The best thing about the future is that it comes one day at a time.
- Abraham Lincoln

There are victories of the soul and spirit. Sometimes, even if you lose, you win.
- Eliezer Wiesel

November 2, 2007

Arcadia, Halloween Thanks, Super Sophs, Hillary's Pix, Beach Sweep, and The Power of One

Next Thursday, Friday, and Saturday: Tom Stoppard's Arcadia in Kenan at 7:30 each evening. To reserve your free tickets to this complex and hilarious play, click to the DA news page.

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From LS Director Carolyn Ronco to the US community
: Thank you so much for the warm reception our Lower Schoolers received today at the Upper School. The music set a festive atmosphere, and the US students were friendly and supportive. Several of our students came back with stories of Upper Schoolers commenting on how cool their costumes were. Our children were grinning from ear to ear! Nothing beats that show of support from an older schoolmate. I heard a lot of comments that this was the best parade ever. Thank you for making it happen-- for guiding us along our route, for preparing your students, and for making our time fun and memorable.

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DA Debate update: At the University of Florida, sophomore Mackin Brinegar became the first Lincoln-Douglas debater in DA history to advance to the elimination rounds of a national tournament. Once there, he upset a higher seed in double-octafinals, marched through the octafinals and into the quarterfinals, where he finally fell to a nationally prominent debater. Grace Wallack and Dede Pless ripped through the preliminary rounds of public forum before losing a split decision in the double-octafinals. Their consolation prize was the opportunity to compete in extemporaneous duo, where they reached the semifinals. At Enloe High School - For the second tournament in a row, 9th grader Tanner Caplan was undefeated in novice Lincoln-Douglas debate and placed fourth based on speaker points.

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Sophomore Mollie Pathman, who has been playing with the U-15 Women's National Soccer Team, recently learned that she has been selected for the 40-player pool for the U-17 national team slated to play in the first ever FIFA U-17 Women's World Cup, to be played in New Zealand in October, 2008. As a modest fifteen year-old, Mollie considers herself a longshot for the eventual 22-24 player team, but she will have the chance to impress coaches during domestic and international training camps next spring and summer. Congratulations, Mollie!

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Sophomore Nathan Hsieh was recently selected as the first chair saxophonist for the UNC-Greensboro High School Honors Jazz Band, directed by Chad Eby. Writes Nathan's ITP Co-teacher Herb Lamb, "As you may know, the UNCG jazz program is outstanding and becoming well known throughout the country. They had Fred Wesley Jr. on staff for a few years. "Hit Me" Fred was the innovative trombone player for James Brown. I had the good fortune to see him a few years ago at the Greensboro Blues Festival. He was still cookin', moving to a jazz funk genre of music."

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Hillary Rosen (AFS-ing in Germany) recently sent a link to her most recent electronic photo album. To see her host family and their adventures in town, school, and mountains, click here.

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Last weekend 30 locals joined 6 DA students for the Wrightsville Beach Sweep organized by Senior John Lindsey. They spent three hours bagging trash and picking up over a thousand cigarette butts. To see a picture and short story in the local newspaper, click here (page 3, bottom left). The Cape Fear Surfrider Foundation, along with Jerry Allen's Bar on the main strip in Wrightsville, have offered to sponsor anther beach sweep in the spring.

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If ever you doubt the power of one, check out these two videos:

A surprise at Britain's Got Talent

A bagger changes a culture

October 26, 2007

A Durham Self-Portrait, WISER, Sports Psych, Coaches, Oaxacan Weavers, Nativity School Links, and a School Without Classes



Think you know Durham? Come see the film!

The Southern Documentary Fund presents a Video Dialog Inc. production of the highly-anticipated documentary Durham: A Self-Portrait.

Sensationalized in national media and misunderstood regionally. Finally, it is Durham's turn to tell its own story.

We began three years ago with the vision of creating a television and educational film about the unique history of race and class in the Bull City. Along the way we've interviewed dozens of folks from all walks of life, and found a lot of exciting old footage and surprising new stories.

Check out the website for Durham: A Self-Portrait at http://www.portraitofdurham.com

Join us for the premiere screening! 7:30 p.m., Friday, November 16, 2007 at The Carolina Theatre
Tickets are free, available in advance at the Carolina Theatre

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In Monday's Morning Meeting, we'll hear from Duke Senior and DA alumna Kelly Teagarden, who has spent much of the last two years working on Women's Education and Secondary Education and Research (WISER), building the first boarding school for girls in Muhuru Bay, Kenya, with the aim of reducing sexual abuse and guaranteeing their right to safe and effective education.

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In Friday's Assembly, we'll hear from Dr. Greg Dale, Duke sports psychologist/ethicist. Click here for a recent article on Greg in Duke magazine

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Thanks to our fabulous fivesome of fall coaches (Julian Cochran, Dennis Cullen, Thomas Phu, Dan Kimberg and Eric Teagarden, for the hundreds of hours they invested in our students since early August.

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Remember Eric and Janet Chavez, the Oaxacan weavers who visited DA last year and captured the attention of our students on the quad? Their North Carolina host has invited all interested DA students and faculty to an open house for the Chavez family on Sunday, November 4. We're currently considering a student travel-study program in Oaxaca. Interested? Or just want to see some beautiful images and artwork? Go to http://www.oaxacaculture.com


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This morning, seventeen DA teachers (including Owen Bryant, Anthony Clay, Liz Coleman, Bobbie Hardaker, Torsie Judkins, and me) spent the early morning at Durham Nativity School (DNS). The visit offered an overview of DNS's inspiring mission and operation. It also represented a continuing effort to strengthen the ties between DA and DNS. Among the new links:

• In September Alex Nozick began hosting DNS's sixth graders for a weekly after-school photography class. Feedback so far (from both teacher and students) has been enthusiastically positive.
• On Thursday four 8th graders from DNS visited the Upper School for their day of shadowing and admissions interviews. We'll be competing against Cary Academy, Cardinal Gibbons, and several boarding schools for the best of these students, but hope we can convince them that the best school in the region is right here in Durham.
• This month several DA Middle School teachers (led by Robert Wilson) began a peer-to-peer professional development program with DNS teachers.
• In December our MS will host the DNS students for our holiday dance and Kenan Auditorium will host the first annual DNS Musical Revue (December 16 at 3 pm - open to the public).

If you have an idea about a possible collaboration (on this campus, theirs, or somewhere else in the Triangle) please see me or contact DA parent of alumni and DNS super-volunteer Barbara Potter (383-7109). Like Student U., Durham Nativity School is a logical place for us to live out our mission of creating happy, moral, productive servant-leaders. As Barbara put it this morning, "This place has completely grabbed my heart. I love these boys."

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Food for thought - A friend recently sent me this story from NPR. I forwarded it to Mr. Lineberger, one of many teachers serving on our PK-12 Experiential Education Task Force. Great teaching will always remain at the core of Durham Academy, but our Task Forces are thinking big about senior projects, service-learning, independent studies, and other innovations. The school described in the story offers another model for consideration.
Experimental School Gets Rid of Classes and Teachers

October 19, 2007

A ray of hope, wash those hands, DA Debate rolls, and vocab = rice



Mr. Kimberg, in a spirit of intercollegiate goodwill, sent this link to one of the most inspiring stories I've read in a long time.

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The media is buzzing about drug-resistant staph infections, popping up in high schools lately and predicted by some to prove more deadly than AIDS. We need not panic, but have taken some additional disinfecting precautions in locker, bath, shower, and weight rooms on campus. To learn more about the germ, check out these FAQ from the Center for Disease Control. Bottom line for this and all communicable bacteria and viruses: let's wash our hands.

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DA Speech and Debate took third in the overall sweepstakes competition at Western Guilford High last weekend, led by several strong individual performances. Robert Kindman took 1st place in extemporaneous speaking, followed by Nathaniel Donahue, who took 2nd. Max Ramage was 4th in extemporaneous, and also 2nd in impromptu speaking. Ben Hattem earned DA's first-ever trophy in a varsity interpretation event, taking 2nd in dramatic interpretation. Exactly switching their placements from the previous tournament, Ariel Katz was 3rd in original oratory, while Sophia Tsang was 4th. Dede Pless and Michael Roubey were 2nd in varsity public forum, while Tanner Caplan was 4th -- and undefeated -- in novice Lincoln-Douglas debate. Several other DA competitors also did well but finished just outside trophy territory.

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9th grader Steve Benson suggested this game that allows you to test your vocabulary and donate grains of rice throught the UN's food program (bought by the advertisers). Pretty cool and educational as well! http://www.freerice.com/index.php

October 12, 2007

Laura makes a film, Volunteers win Mayor's Awards, Nan writes from India


Click here to read the blog of Distinguished Alumna Laura Dunn and learn more about her critically-acclaimed film THE UNFORESEEN.

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Last week the Volunteer Center of Durham presented its Mayor's Awards for 2007:

Among the students recognized for giving more than 100 hours of community service during the summer:

Gargi Bansal
Nick Drago
Devin Gustafson
Jennifer Hambric
David Lee
Will Ramsey
Sean Sketch
Jennifer Spritzer (now attending Cedar Ridge HS)
Raj Sundar

Recognized as "Hard Core Volunteers" (more than 50 hours of service during the school year):

Sam Berchuck
Nick Drago
John Hunter
Chris Koller
Josh Pathman

Recognized as members of the 06-07 Student Action Board:

Nick Drago (President for 07-08)
Jennifer Hambric
John Hunter
Briani Weeks

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From Cambridge to Jaipur - Nan Ransahoff recently sent another report from India - chapter 2 of her semester abroad. Excerpts appear below and the entire message (with a fascinating section on the treatment of women in Indian society) on Community Matters.


Hello, hello! I've been in India for just over a month and have yet to be hit by a rickshaw, plowed over by a camel or bucked off an elephant (yes, I did ride one). There's far too much to fit into an email (I think my emails are longer than most papers I wrote at school freshman year), but I'll try to pick a few highlights. I won't lie. This is going to be a long one and it won't even be comprehensive. I apologize in advance. Anyways, the Taj Mahal's a decent place to startŠ

Four of us had planned to take a 3 hour train from Delhi to Agra, spend a few hours at the Taj Mahal and then take a 7 hour train back to Jaipur. It's a lot of train time, but I mean, it's the TM so whatever. First of all, the trains are insane. We rode 3AC, which is the lowest class with air conditioning. In a space the size of most Americans' walk in closets, 3 beds on one side and 3 beds on the other are stacked so closely on top of one another that you can't sit up straight. After an uncomfortable 3 hours, the train stopped not at the train station but next to a small road in the middle of nowhere. "Agra!!" someone shouted, which thoroughly confused me. How was there not a giant, gleaming train station to welcome the millions of tourists that come from all over the world to see the Taj Mahal? I asked one of the railway employees where the train station was. "Agra is closed today, ma'am. The Taj Mahal is closed today." I knew the Taj Mahal was closed every Friday, but it was Saturday. When I asked him why, he said there were "many foreign VIPs in Agra." I don't even get that. How can you just close the Taj because there are some "foreign VIPs" I didn't ask any more, for fear they'd say the "foreign VIP" was actually MTV taping "Real World India" or the next season of "The Amazing Race." Really, who just shuts down the Taj Mahal? Can you plan your wedding there? How about Bar Mitzvahs? In the end, we spent the night outside of Agra and watched the sun rise over the Taj Mahal the next morning, which was unbelievable (I woke up half an hour early to attempt tying my own sariŠit kiiinnd of worked. See the picture attached). It was definitely worth it in the end, but quite a ridiculous journey.

I have fully embraced the Indian dress code. I've purchased 4 new outfits, on which I spent a grand to total of $30. Rajasthan is known for its vibrant fabrics and textiles, illustrated by Rajasthani women - from street sweepers to businesswomen - who wear sarees (essentially a few yards of fabric you wrap around yourself to make it look like a gown) of every color and pattern you can imagine. Rajasthan is primarily desert, which makes the bright colors pop even more. Driving through rural areas, it's impossible to miss women plowing the fields or carrying a pile of 10ft-long branches on their heads while wearing sarees of highlighter yellow and pink. I've decided to use these 4 months to wear as much color as I possibly can. I love/think its hilarious that I can wear neon pink, green, yellow and blue in one outfit and still look dull in comparison to the women around me. Though I must say, I'm a little worried my sense of what's normal has been radically skewed. "Going out" clothes are now synonymous with sequins and sparkles. I think I'm in for a rude awakening upon return, but I'm loving it now. India has proved to be an assault on all the senses, and the color here plays a large part in that. (I should also say that I get basically my whole wardrobe washed, dried, and beautifully pressed for just over $2. My Crimson Crazies shirt has never looked so gorgeous).

There's quite a stark contrast between "going out" in India and "going out" in the US to say the least. On my way to a bar here, I will always pass at least half a dozen cows, camels sleeping after a long day's work, and half-naked children running through the streets at 11pm (bed time here seems to be a foreign concept). The other night I went to (what was supposed to be) a fun club in Jaipur with some friends. After waiting half an hour for the DJ to play something other than slow jams (for real, it was a flashback to 6 th grade, backstreet boys and Britney includedŠspeaking of Britney, a small picture of her is often on the front page of the papers here) we asked the DJ to play something we could dance to. He looked pretty excited we asked and was nodding aggressively, so we thought he got the message. Apparently that was not the case, as hhe just started blasting "Hotel California" as loud as he could. Needless to say we left after a good laugh. (Id also like to add that dancing is mostly segregated by gender. Its common for guys to hold hands and spin each other around and sort of bump up against each other. Guys hold hands walking around during the day, which is really cute/hilarious so I sort of expected a version of this on the dancefloor. Regardless, it was funny to see. )

On a different note, I went on my first motorcycle ride a few weeks ago. I needed to run a few errands and Ankit, my host brother, decided to take me. Like I said in my last email, driving here is absolutely insane. Ankit started full speed down our tiny dirt road, and, like most drivers here, barely looked before turning onto the next (very busy) road. Every movement here seems to be taken on faith. Because Ankit's English is so good, I asked him out of curiosity if he knew what the word "yield" meant. He didn't, so I explained the concept to him. Still, nothing. I laughed nervously to myself and held on tightly. But really there's nothing you can do in the back seat other than pray that either your driver or the other car decides to defect in this dangerous game chicken. It

Bhavnaji and I often go on long walks in the park, which is where I acquire fun clips like this as well as get a chance to talk about heavier matters, which she usually initiates. We've become surprisingly close in the past month. I think she is beginning to see me as a confident of sorts. Through a series of pretty intense conversations, I'm beginning to piece together her life story and also understand some of the major (and horrific) issues concerning the condition of women in India. Some excerpts from our conversationsŠ.(Keep in mind that she is well educated with a degree in psychology and a wonderful husband and son)

- Her father died when she was 1, her mother was poisoned by her secretary who wanted to take the family's wealth. The police did nothing because they were bribed by the secretary to remain silent. Because of this, Bhavnaji chose to marry "down" into a family that wasn't money crazy. As a result of her marrying down (still the Brahman caste, but down socio-economically) her brother wont speak to her.

- Growing up, her mother snuck her money and gifts because her brothers would have treated her and her mother much worse had they known.

- When she was born, her immediate and extended family did not speak to her mother for a year to punish her for having a girl.

- According to Bhavnaji, the upper castes are smart/well-behaved and the lower castes stupid and dirty due to genetics. Dalits (untouchables) are "no better than pigs."

- The lower-caste woman who sweeps her driveway only comes twice a week now because (even though Bhavnaji pays her well) she makes more money by selling her daughter into prostitution. (The way she describes it, the shortage of women due to sex-selective abortion has driven the going rate for girls).

- In traditional families, the woman is treated horribly by her husband's family until she "earns" her place in the family. To this day, Bhavnaji's mother-in-law still hates her. Bhavnaji describes her as a "wretched woman." Yet she still cooks and cleans for her every single day because it is "her duty." The difference between conceptions of familial responsibility here vs the US is just enormous.

- She wanted to have another child, but her husband did not want to risk having a girl.

Honestly, these are tiny tiny tiny excerpts of conversations we've had, during which I'm often fighting back tears. She's constantly telling me "the condition of women in India is very bad, so bad I cannot explain you." She's always telling me that many Indian women will lie about their condition, but she will not even though it makes her "weakness seeable." Her life and honesty are both remarkable. I could go on forever about what she's told me and how it's changed me, but I'll cut myself off here. Bottom line is that our conversations and growing friendship alone have made my semester abroad worth it.

On a lighter note, singing lessons with her are going -- well -- they're going. Since I don't know the language I sing with 5-8 year olds. We're currently learning a Rajasthani folk song, to which she won't let me right down the words. She usually stops the class several times to turn to me and say, "When you sing Rajasthani folk song, your heart become Indian and you will know the words in your heart." This is most definitely not the case. I usually just mouth "watermelon, watermelon" over and over again and hope she doesn't notice I don't have the slightest clue what's going on.

Okay, well I clearly could go on forever and have still hardly touched on anything in this largely disjointed email, but my time at this internet café is about to expire and I think I've developed carpal tunnel in the past hour. I miss you all so much and would love to hear from all of you if you get the chance!! I hope all is well.